Why do men avoid relationship talk?

Men are always ready or eager to do everything from ironing, washing up and nappy changing.
A man can find a million and one other things to do rather than sit down with his partner and (deep breath) talk about their relationship. It's not because men don't care about their woman, its just that the word 'relationship discussion' mean different things to men and women. Often a woman will just want a chat, which can also involveairing her thoughts and worries. However, a lot of men don't see a simple clearing the air discussion as a moan or an indication of unhappiness. He gets on the defensive, says everything she's saying is rubbish; she says, he's uncaring and doesn't understand her.

We've all been there, haven't we?

So what's the answer?

How can two grown-ups manage to have an adult conversation about their relationship?

It's probably a good idea to first of all, recognise that your man sees the whole discussion process from a widely different viewpoint.
Before you sit down with him and begin talking, it might pay to explain that what you're about to say isn't a moan. If you're about to make some sort of criticism,pay him a compliment first or stress some of the great things about your relationship.

During relationship discussions, men tend to look for logical answers to issues that are less than straightforward. Try explaining to him that you don't necessarilywant quick fix responses from him if you do simply want to get something off your chest, tell him that. Ask him to just listen.

Silent Tears

Do you perceive life only as a futile struggle, rather than a challenge that is meaningful? When you look realistically and rationally at your life, your time is a precious commodity. Those who have known you will judge how you have spent your time and what you have left as your legacy. The concept of death is frightening to those who lack spirituality. Self-indulgence and other morally relativistic behavior consume the thoughts of many people during their spare time when their only focus is on their irrational thoughts and their fears. They visualize bigger homes, better cars, more jewelry, or a better significant other. They grow to resent the current people and possessions they have due to this irrational pattern of thought. They fear that they will miss out on some sort of pleasure before their lives end. This serves only to reinforce their emptiness and fear. 3

Visualize how you can give something back to benefit another person through the acts of love, respect, and honesty. You are also challenged to accept that there will be times when you fall short. The human condition involves the struggle to become a better person while understanding that there will be peaks and valleys along the way. Wipe your tears away and find true meaning through your acts of love. Let your tears of sorrow turn to tears of happiness.